Thanks for sharing all of this! Andor IS awesome. Luthen's speech from season 1 about what he sacrifice's for the cause....OMG, my most favorite piece of television ever. (Actually, now that I think of it, his speech really could be about parenting. Maybe.) I'm re-watching season 1 before I get into season 2 but I can't wait for new content.
Anyways, I believe there is no end to the complexities of modern parenting, and the task of trying to keep some handle on who you are as a person while also doing all of the things you feel compelled to do to be a good parent. What I have been telling myself more often is to remember that my kid has a stake in how she is raised to, and I try to involve her more and more with the responsibility and the decision making. I don't always do this perfectly, but when I do, I feel less like an activities director of a cruise and more like the Co-Captain of a team that is slowly but steadily rising in the ranks. Which is a much better job, if you ask me!
Good luck with the summertime chaos! It is always such a journey to September.
If you liked Season One of Andor you will LOVE Season Two. It's some of the best television I've seen. I now want to also re-watch Rogue One because it's next in the timeline, and now I have the full back story. I don't know how they'd ever make another show to top what they've done.
And I know -- parenting is tough at all stages, and there seems to be little room for a sense of self throughout all of it. I sit here and I'm like "whew OK I got done with that stage maybe time for a breather?" But no. It's ever changing and thrown at me fast. I mentioned "nostalgia" because I do often think of time and my self in the "before kids" era. I miss certain parts of it. But I am an entirely different person and have an entirely different sense of self now. And my priorities are completely changed.
I absolutely involve my kids in decision making! I don't make all the calls. Sometimes I have to play the mom card, but if I come up with an idea for an activity, I always run it by them to see if they're interested. Usually what I come up with jives with them. Their emotions and wants matter, and they shouldn't be dragged along to things because I said so. (OK sometimes I do say "Because I said so", but you know what I mean!)
Summer will come and go in a flash. I hope I have time to do another one of these before it's over...for the 3 people that listen to them!!! <3
Yup - because I said so - definitely still use that one (or something like it) now and again. What I love as River gets older is having her do more and more of the prepping and planning, and it feels so great to have her participate in that. I am so glad to hear you do the same. It absolutely gets easier and easier the older the get (well, the planning and prepping part, the parenting does not get easier, just more intense!).
I hope you have time to do another one, too. I would love to hear more thoughts on nostalgia. It is very weird to think of that long ago me as well....she had NO idea! But I have been feeling super nostalgic lately as well. Is it all the 90s stuff people are wearing again?
Thanks for sharing all of this! Andor IS awesome. Luthen's speech from season 1 about what he sacrifice's for the cause....OMG, my most favorite piece of television ever. (Actually, now that I think of it, his speech really could be about parenting. Maybe.) I'm re-watching season 1 before I get into season 2 but I can't wait for new content.
Anyways, I believe there is no end to the complexities of modern parenting, and the task of trying to keep some handle on who you are as a person while also doing all of the things you feel compelled to do to be a good parent. What I have been telling myself more often is to remember that my kid has a stake in how she is raised to, and I try to involve her more and more with the responsibility and the decision making. I don't always do this perfectly, but when I do, I feel less like an activities director of a cruise and more like the Co-Captain of a team that is slowly but steadily rising in the ranks. Which is a much better job, if you ask me!
Good luck with the summertime chaos! It is always such a journey to September.
If you liked Season One of Andor you will LOVE Season Two. It's some of the best television I've seen. I now want to also re-watch Rogue One because it's next in the timeline, and now I have the full back story. I don't know how they'd ever make another show to top what they've done.
And I know -- parenting is tough at all stages, and there seems to be little room for a sense of self throughout all of it. I sit here and I'm like "whew OK I got done with that stage maybe time for a breather?" But no. It's ever changing and thrown at me fast. I mentioned "nostalgia" because I do often think of time and my self in the "before kids" era. I miss certain parts of it. But I am an entirely different person and have an entirely different sense of self now. And my priorities are completely changed.
I absolutely involve my kids in decision making! I don't make all the calls. Sometimes I have to play the mom card, but if I come up with an idea for an activity, I always run it by them to see if they're interested. Usually what I come up with jives with them. Their emotions and wants matter, and they shouldn't be dragged along to things because I said so. (OK sometimes I do say "Because I said so", but you know what I mean!)
Summer will come and go in a flash. I hope I have time to do another one of these before it's over...for the 3 people that listen to them!!! <3
Yup - because I said so - definitely still use that one (or something like it) now and again. What I love as River gets older is having her do more and more of the prepping and planning, and it feels so great to have her participate in that. I am so glad to hear you do the same. It absolutely gets easier and easier the older the get (well, the planning and prepping part, the parenting does not get easier, just more intense!).
I hope you have time to do another one, too. I would love to hear more thoughts on nostalgia. It is very weird to think of that long ago me as well....she had NO idea! But I have been feeling super nostalgic lately as well. Is it all the 90s stuff people are wearing again?